I’m giving care to my aunt (“mom”) who raised me. This journey started slowly with simply helping mom over the cold winter months. In fact, it happened so slowly, I didn’t even realize I was a caregiver, but rather just a daughter giving care to her aging mom. Sometimes I think that’s how a lot of caregivers start their journey – slowly over time.
My mom’s almost 90 and determined to stay in her own home as long as she can. She has multiple medical issues, which alone are minor, but when combined can make it difficult for her day-to-day life.
Emotional & mental aspects hard to deal with on daily basis
In addition to the physical aspects of being a caregiver, the emotional & mental aspects are even harder to deal with, especially on a daily basis. Seeing someone you love slowly change from the person they once were to the person they are now is very difficult, especially when dealing with issues related to mental status and physical limitations on a daily basis.
I needed to find help
When I first found the Alberta Caregivers Association, I was on my millionth crying session. I could no longer take screaming into my pillow or crying in the shower. I was ready to walk away from the whole situation. I needed to find help.
I connected with others who know you can’t do everything on your own
It was through the ACGA that I was able to connect with other people who were experiencing the same emotions – loneliness, guilt, shame, isolation – as I was. There’s other people out there who know what it’s like to feel like a failure because you can’t do everything on your own.
The ACGA helped me
Through the Information Sessions, COMPASS, and just listening, the ACGA helped to give me my life back.
I am a “Human Being”, not a “Human Doing”.